I spend a lot of my day saying “no”.
I didn’t realize how often I said no, but geez louise it’s a lot.
No, you can’t have more soda.
No, we aren’t having cookies for breakfast.
No, we aren’t painting today.
No, we can’t play Play-Doh right now.
Uh… not now (basically no) , maybe later (I hope you forget that you even asked).
I don’t want to say no all the time.
I don’t want to let them have free reign over the soda, paint and cookies either!
Since I’m pretty certain my kids don’t sit on the couch thinking of the messiest, most complicated thing in the world to play or pondering what sugar laden junk food to ask for next, I had to conclude they only ask for these things because they see them.
That means, they only ask for them because I bought them and put them in their sights.
Soak that in Momma. You put on the table, then told them not to touch it.
That’s like a double edged sword of torture isn’t it?
You spent money on it, said they couldn’t have it (or do it), then have to listen to them ask over and over and over and over again.
You’re miserable, they’re miserable.
Oh wait, I remember why I bought it.
I bought the paint so it would be on hand when I finally decided to do art in school; knowing that I only do paint projects in the Spring and Summer.
I bought the cookies for snack tonight because I didn’t want to make them from scratch; knowing that from scratch we get 12-15 cookies and they are gone immediately but buying a big bag means we have cookies for DAYS.
I keep buying things for “some day” or buying more than we’ll consume during that “special treat” and now I have all this stuff sitting around, taking up space, tempting my kids.
I want to stop saying no all the time, but I don’t want to start letting them paint daily either. (Not that daily painting is a bad thing, I just can’t do that kind of large scale mess on a daily basis. I shouldn’t consume that much wine.)
My plan is simple:
Stop Bringing In Stuff I Need To Say No To
Almost genius isn’t it.
There are too many recipes for easy homemade dough for me to have the store stuff on hand.
Cookies really aren’t that hard to make, when you really want a cookie.
If I only buy paint supplies in April, then Springtime will have new excitement to it, and I won’t have to spend all January saying “not today”. (Pick a winter craft to do in January and get them excited about that)
Intentionally bring things in that you can joyfully say YES to.
What can you say YES to today?