10 Reasons I Don’t Want Your Help

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!0 Reasons I don't want your help

Today, I am tackling the shared bedroom of our two middle daughters. Send wine. Send pizza. But please don’t try to help. Also, please don’t suggest I have them help.

Let me clarify what I mean by “help”. If you want to take my kids outside, then YES you can help. If you want to order us pizza because they probably won’t get fed today, then YES you can help.

What I don’t want is help sorting, purging, wiping, folding, vacuuming, or anything else that you were probably thinking of when you offered to help. I also don’t want the kids in there. Yes, they should learn to clean their room; however, today is not “learning to put your junk away” day. Today is “90% of this junk needs to disappear as if you never owned it” day and they aren’t emotionally mature enough to handle that situation.

Please don’t let my refusal for help hurt your feelings. I love you, my dear friend that is willing to wade through that toxic dump with me, but I need to do this alone. Here are my top ten reasons why I don’t want help, yours or theirs.

  1. While I’m sure that at some point your kid’s room looked this bad, I really don’t want someone else here to witness the number of cups and half eaten PopTarts I’m going to find under the dresser.
  2. This is going to be emotional for me, too. Some of these toys were at some point special and I’m going to have to resist the urge to store it. I can’t let you make that choice for me, and I can’t make that decision regarding two things simultaneously. So while, this will slow the process down, I just need to do it myself.
  3. I don’t want to have to spend time explaining to you the story behind the few toys I do decide to store, trying to justifying my decision to you.
  4. There is barely room for one in there, much less two or four.
  5. I already have the newly-cleaned-up-organizational-plan in my head. I’ve spent weeks procrastinating on this task, scouring Pinterest for the best and cheapest ideas, and I really can’t have you confusing me by offering all your awesome organizing hacks and tips. I’m sure they are WONDERFUL, and they would probably be great in their room, but please don’t confuse me. I’ll end up doing half of my idea and half of yours and it will look a hot-mess.
  6. If you, or they, help me INSIDE the pit of despair, we might all get lost, or killed, and still no one outside the pit will eat. There needs to be a responsible party outside the danger zone.
  7. Upcycling Suggestions. Friends, let’s face it. Coming up with upcycling ideas is fun. I’ll be happy to come sit on your porch and tell you all the reasons why you shouldn’t toss this or that because you could always use it to make this or that. Just not today. Today, I need to clear out this mess super fast. If it was going to get used for it’s intended purpose, or something else, it would be in use. It’s not. It’s gotta go.
  8. I don’t want you to see me cry. At some point, it’s going to happen. Donating those 5T clothes that just don’t fit her anymore, my last girl, my baby girl……*sniffle*. Discovering that really expensive toy that they just HAD to have, stuffed under the desk and quite likely broken. Stopping mid stride to berate myself for letting it get this bad and then giving myself an inner peptalk to get back to work.
  9. When I’m done, I’m going to need a friend. Someone NOT exhausted from cleaning and sorting, to talk to and vent to and laugh with. I can’t have you too exhausted to be my shoulder to lean on.
  10. I’m a control freak. I admit it.

I love you. I love that you want to help. I love that you would be willing to sacrifice your life day to do this for me. Please understand, this is just something I need to do myself.

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5 Places In My House That Make Me Bonkers

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My bedroom floor and craft area

The older I get, the more annoyed I am becoming with all this stuff. Oh my goodness friends, it does pile up fast! Yesterday, I cleared out nine grocery bags of stuff. Stuff I loved, kept for a couple of years, but finally had to just let it go because honestly, I was tired of looking at it. I was tired of it even being an option. I had held on to the fabric, the books, and the supplies for the “what if” moments that either (a) never came or (b) when they did come, the item I was hoarding wasn’t the right color/size/etc. and I ended up buying something new.

I’m fed up with it all. I’m over the shuffling and dusting and reorganzing. It’s time to let it go.

Unfortunately, my busted elbow is making me work at a less than preferred pace. Rather than go on a rampage through the house tossing anything that hasn’t been touched in a year, I am being forced to make a game plan and take it slow.

I’ve decided to start with the 5 places in my house that make me bonkers the most. I chose to not pick my children’s rooms, even though they are the clear winners, for two reasons. First, they have doors. Second, I never had hope for them to be “nice” places in our home in the first place. These five places are places that started out as purposeful, well-planned spaces, but things just went wonky. Here they are, in no particular order:

The Kitchen Shelf of Despair

The kitchen shelf of despair

This was a piece that moved to the new house with us. It fit in the corner of the kitchen nicely. The stainless steel finish matched the rims of my mason jars. It was supposed to hold my jars full of pasta and beans, and display some over-sized appliances, such as my Kitchen-Aid mixer. It ended up being the catch-all for everything. Cleaners and aprons hang from the bars. Fruits and veggies, get tossed on it’s shelves. When we replaced our stove, the new drawer was too small for all my pans, so they, too, moved to my shelf unit. For a while, everyone’s Awana’s bag hung from the post. I have considered throwing my super long tablecloth over the front of it, just to hide it from my sight. It is on my list to either make more presentable, or eliminate. Any ideas?

 

The Lost Things Basket

 

Basket of Lost Things

This is a beautiful, slightly tattered, basket we rescued out of Great-Grandpa’s attic. I love it. I have a thing for big baskets, never mind their impracticality. I placed the basket here, in the corner of the den, with the intent of using it to store toys “lost” throughout the day. You know, the ones you’ve picked up or stepped over 100 times before lunch. Initially, I scooped up whatever was left out about 4pm, and once a week the kids could dump it out and “find” all their lost things. As you can see, it never gets emptied. I could probably throw away that entire pile and it would be months before anyone missed a thing. *sigh*

 

The Hall Tree

The Hall Tree

 

This is another piece brought over from the old house. It was custom-built by my crafty Father-in-law, made to fit the tiny space we had behind our door at the old house. It’s been in three different locations at our new house. I bought fancy baskets from Michael’s to help it look nicer. (Let me just pause here to confess that I bought those baskets months and months ago, but they still have the tags on them)  It’s called a “hall tree”, and I’m convinced my children’s coats and shoes and gloves and hats are growing on it in the night like kudzu. There is another basket, two feet away that is for snow boots only. It’s overflowing. The madness has to stop.

 

The Game Closet

 

The Game Closet

This closet would traditionally be a linen closet. I used it for that purpose for roughly two months, when I acknowledged that keeping the towels and sheets there was horribly inconvenient. It works better to keep them closer to my bathroom, so we moved all the games to this space.  This picture is after I removed three trash bags of games because their pieces were hopelessly lost. This space doesn’t work well for linens. It also doesn’t work well for games. We forget we even have games, because they are out of sight, and when we do remember, the kids can’t reach the ones they want. This space needs a new purpose and our games need a new home.

 

Mom’s Bedroom Floor/Craft Space

My bedroom floor and craft area

The Mr. and I were so excited last year, when we trekked to Ikea and redid our entire bedroom! We had a bedroom suit that matched. We had a headboard for the first time in twelve years. I had amazing shelves to store my fabric stash. Despite being all matchy-matchy, it is still the catch-all room for EVERYTHING. I’d love to get back into the routine of doing a load of laundry from start to finish before starting another load, but one must get caught up to make that happen. I still have hope. In the meantime, I craft everywhere BUT my craft space and we keep searching the hampers for clean laundry because our drawers are empty.

I really hope to be showing you guys some amazing after photos soon. My great purge of 2015 is still going strong, paired with some new rules on what’s allowed to come in. What space in your house makes you the most bonkers?

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Lemon Essential Oil: My favorite go-to cleaner

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Lemon EO for Cleaner

I’ve always known kids were messy. With my first kid, I welcomed the mess and the spills. Heck, I even helped create some of them. By the time number four rolled around, I was wondering if I would ever have anything again that wasn’t stained. It seems everything in my house is discolored somewhere.

Throw in a pet for each kid, and a bigger house than I ever imagined living in, and that makes for a lot of messes and a lot of places to make messes.

If you follow me on Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram, then you already know we are in love with essential oils. LOVE, I say. Not only have they enhanced our lives with regards to our general health, but they boost the flavor of our food when we cook with them, and they help me clean. They help me clean a lot. It’s in my homemade laundry detergent. It’s in my room spray. It’s in my furniture polish. It’s in my kitchen cleaner. We use it on the carpet, the floors, the walls, the kids, even the dogs.

My favorite oil for cleaning is Lemon. We all know that lemon cleans well. Even store bought cleaners use lemon in their recipes. I’ve used lemon juice before, and I’ve used fresh squeezed lemons, but nothing cleans like my Lemon Oil.

My go to recipe for general cleaning ( I use it on spots and grease) is 5 drops of Lemon Oil, one drop of dawn (optional), and filtered water in a 2oz glass bottle with mist sprayer. I’ve also put a drop of Lemon EO in my wash tub when I’m soaking really grungy dishes. When my 6 year old covered my nightstand in My Little Pony Stickers, it was a couple drops of straight Lemon EO that slid them off easily!

Here are some of my other favorite recipes:

From Stock Piling Moms, Removing Laundry Stains with Lemon Essential Oil

From Healing Heart Oils, Using DoTerra Lemon Essential Oil for Stains

The Prairie Homestead, DIY Laundry Spot Remover

DoTerra Blog’s All Purpose Spray

My Natural Family has 20 great recipes for Natural Cleaning!

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If you would like to know more about using Essential Oils, e-mail me and I’ll be happy to share more information with you personally and send you a sample upon request.

Our family chose to use DoTerra Essential Oils. If you would like more information about DoTerra, please visit http://mydoterra.com/lrbaldwin

I am not a doctor and can not diagnose or treat you, I can just share my advice and my personal experiences. Essential Oils have yet to be approved by the FDA.

 

 

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